The Difference Between Grief and Trauma

Some of the deepest experiences people face are also the ones that are the hardest to talk about. When we go through something tragic, life-threatening, or emotionally overwhelming, it is usually an experience that changes us, and not always for the better. Grief and trauma are complex experiences, but knowing the difference between them can help us move on.

Key Differences Between Grief and Trauma

Grief is a hurt you sustain to your soul

Everyone grieves differently depending on their personality, experience, and what it is they have lost, but for the most part, grief affects our emotions. Some people feel it physically in the form of exhaustion or stomach cramps, but for the most part, grief feels like an unending ache inside of us, like an empty, heavy sadness mixed with regret and anger. Over time, grief transforms and changes, but some parts of our emotions will always be affected by the loss.

Trauma is an injury you sustain to your mind

There is a type of violence behind trauma, sometimes literal, sometimes figurative. Our minds are the place that trauma affects most deeply. Our self-esteem, trust in others, mental state, and outlook on life are all affected by trauma and often continue to be affected until we address what happened.

You don’t heal from grief

Grief never really leaves us, and there is no point at which we can say we are “healed” from grief. We will always be affected by the loss, even if, at some point, the memories feel less sad and painful. The best we can do to honor what is gone is to build our lives around the gap that remains, like a tree stump that remains at the center of a garden.

You can heal from trauma

It takes work and practice to heal from trauma, but it is possible. At least, we must begin addressing what happened and unpacking our response and beliefs attached to traumatic events. It might take years before we feel safe again, but it is a goal we can work toward.

Grief asks us to live with change

We grieve over what was lost and will not come back. This could be grieving a loved one, grieving for a future that never happened, or grieving the person we were before the loss. The task in grief is to move on, knowing that we can’t change the past.

Trauma tasks us to change things

We might not have had any control over the events that caused trauma, but we can take control over our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions. Doing this will help us find a path through our fears to a future of wholeness and safety.

It is possible to live with grief just as it is possible to heal from trauma. These journeys often connect, and we might find ourselves grieving the person we were before the trauma. However, we must understand how each of these complex experiences differs so that we can begin to find our way forward in life.

Moving on is not easy, and some of us will bear the scars of grief and trauma for the rest of our lives, but scars serve as reminders of all we have made it through so far.

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