Premarital Counseling

Your counselor at Stone Oak Christian Counseling will likely spend time getting to know you as a couple and focus on the topics that you are most interested in addressing.

Some common subjects that come up in premarital counseling include:

• Communication: How to learn one another’s mode of communicating, encouraging listening, and giving one another grace instead of making assumptions
• Conflict: Why it arises, and how to employ strategies to reach resolution more effectively and without causing damage to the marriage relationship
• Sexuality: Expectations and concerns, practical considerations such as birth control, discussing any past issues of sexual sin that might impact on the marriage
• Money: Understanding each other’s views on money, biblical principles for good budgeting, discussions around any debt or concerns that might affect the future
• Family: Relationships with future in-laws, views on how family is involved in one’s marriage, practical considerations such as how much time will be spent with family
• Children: Whether the couple desires to have children, how many, will one parent stay home with the children, etc.

There are many other things that are important to touch on, things such as where you see yourself living, your goals for the next five, ten, or twenty years, bucket list dreams, and so forth. Of course, you may have discussed these things before in a less formal context, but they are the building blocks of the other person’s life and thus beneficial to know. Sometimes people aren’t consciously aware of what drives them, and so unpacking these thoughts is helpful for them to articulate their motivations and desires.